Medical: Erectile Dysfunction – Needing A Hand to Stand – By Yvonne Sam  

  By Yvonne Sam

The Hard Facts about the Soft Truth

Although sexual health is essential to overall health and well-being, nevertheless there is a tendency for sexual-health needs to be overlooked in routine health care. It has been estimated that currently over 150 million men worldwide suffer from erectile dysfunction (ED) and by 2025, this figure will increase beyond 322 million.

According to Gail Wyatt, sex therapist, clinical psychologist and professor at UCLA, roughly 18 million American men experience erectile dysfunction, or ED, defined as the inability to attain or sustain an erection for satisfactory sexual intercourse, and typically measured over a three-month period, and African men are more likely than men of other races to experience ED.         

The condition is not a natural sequelae of aging; however, it becomes increasingly prevalent with age, with approximately 40 percent of 40-year-old men reporting that they experience the condition. “Men are coming in younger and younger,” says Dr. Gerald Hoke, chief of urology at New York’s Harlem Hospital. “They used to start coming in during their late 40s and 50s. Now more men are coming in during their late 30s and early 40s.” A few men even experience problems in their early to mid-20s.

Cannabis the most widely used drug, graduating recently from being illicit to a sure hit, has been linked with potentially hazardous effects on male sexual health .

Confessedly, I am no authority when it comes to the issue of addressing, discussing, and/ or at best advising on matters that commonly affect individuals/ couples who have managed to hook up, especially males, (no say for the gay), but as a trained and qualified representative of the health profession for over a half of a century, I feel it somehow places me favourably ahead of others in the race for Sexual Advisor. Now, please do not pull the macho stuff on me, as I know guys have a way of outdoing Harry Houdini when it comes to disappearing, especially if it involves opening a file to discuss their  missile.  The male sex organ is viewed or considered as a barometer of his overall vasculature, so in  a sense impotence simply is – a heart attack of the penis.

Males prefer not to talk about it, because, it’s an outright blow to their show, and no good for the manhood. So before you start nudging and judging, shitting and spitting or simply heaving and leaving, please understand that this is my simple attempt at trying to make an uncomfortable topic, comfortable to males who aren’t scared of “opening up” about the “reel deal”, or those who feel bad about not being dealt a “hard card”.. We can no longer drop it, or not make it a hot topic.  It is no point praying without saying, if you desire an erection that is staying. .

Another force that has come into play is that Black men are overly cautious with whom they have their sexual say, or discuss their sexual play. Although 13 percent of the population is black in the United States, just 4 percent of doctors are black.

Guys, remember that erectile dysfunction is a very serious issue especially to your woman. When she is ready to play and your clang is missing the bang. What will you say? Should she continue to hang slack till you get back on track?  Or will you reach for the pill to help you fulfill?  Or better still get an injection to aid the erection? You know that she’ll be no part of your show.

No Play! No Stay! No Way!  The artist is not showing, then she’s got to be going. So she gets dressed and is soon on her way, to text, phone and Facebook all her peeps, for there is so much to say.  She may even get to thinking that if it could not rise when lights were dim, then perhaps it’s designed to work with “him”. Your masculinity has been attacked, but with her mouth there is no holding back.

Male friends, sons, brothers lend me a listening ear, for with the fall the macho image is not your call.  If you are having problems, keeping Mr. Right in flight, please do not be afraid to seek medical attention. While she does the talking, you can do the walking. There are many causes behind the failure to rise, with no one particular reason winning first prize. Two discrete categories physical and psychological are to blame, but when it is both persistent and consistent, no matter the age biological factors are attributable at this stage. Just can’t afford to be supple for two is considered a couple. The answer is as plain as can be; medical experts call it “performance anxiety” or stated exactly true, evidence of a deeper psychological issue.

Some other causes for  erectile dysfunction can be,  no joking if on weed you feed, long distance bike riding is also to blame, a misplaced kick would do the trick, diabetes,  and one to be feared and the info shared is poor diet,  eat well if you want things to swell.  Some forms (sorry not all) of erectile dysfunction with proper medical attention can be easily corrected, once detected.

As I close, remember guys do not take it personally when desired action you fail to see.  Medical assistance you must seek if you really want to peak. Most of all please keep your partner in the know, even when there are episodes of “No Show”.

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  • Bernard  On 09/12/2019 at 1:14 am

    Your play on words that rhyme and the careless and cavalier manner in which you treat a serious condition that affect some of us is an insult.

    I was a powerful male until a cancer operation resulted in the removal of the erectile nerves and hence permanent impotence.

    It has been nearly a decade now that can no longer sleep with a woman because I am afraid that she will be disappointed.

    It was choice of impotence or death. I chose life over death. So madam, please don’t make light of a serious medical issue that you think is funny because it’s not.


  • kamtanblog  On 09/12/2019 at 5:20 am

    Absolute hilarious laughter…
    Take the pill !
    Women took it to avoid pregnancy !
    Now men take it to enhance f penetration/fertilisation.
    At 35 requested my “vasectomy”
    My surgeon said it was illegal until
    I reached 40. Having been blessed
    with 4 children …2 girls twin boys
    persuaded my surgeon that age is irrevalant
    as it was my choice/my desire.
    Eventually he agreed at 39 but could
    not “certify” me until my 40th. It’s framed
    and displayed in my home today.

    This explains why I found the above suggestion/recommendation hilarious.

    Today oral sex is still illegal (taboo)
    masturbation ..normal especially in teenage
    /adulthood adolescence.
    Sex remains the act of love
    Sharing and caring …
    too often abused for the pleasure/money
    it can generate/create.
    Am no sex therapist but at the tender
    age of 75 no need to take any pill.

    Live and learn
    Love the life I live
    Live the life I lose

    Kamtan UK

  • wally n  On 09/12/2019 at 4:30 pm

    Years ago, years, on a hair grow, or similar commercial they claimed on a survey they did, that men would prefer to lose their “hardness” than their hair, never gave it any thought, today baldness is supposed to show virility?
    Thinking about it, thirty to forty year old, wow, who knew?

  • cedric thompson  On 09/12/2019 at 4:50 pm

    Indeed,one of your best articles and much needed.I hope that men take note and

    do something if necessary.

    • Bernard  On 09/12/2019 at 5:20 pm

      It is a wreck less and irresponsible article. Sadly, the writer thinks its funny.

      I lost erectile function due to a life-threatening and life-altering operation for stage-4, metastatic prostate cancer 10 years ago.

      Both the prostate gland and erectile nerves (responsible for erection) were removed. The procedure has left me permanently impotent.

      No pill can restore my erectile function, unfortunately. Therefore, it is not a laughing matter. If it happened to you, you won’t be laughing.

      Get checked before it’s too late.

      Bernard .

  • Trevor  On 09/12/2019 at 6:57 pm

    African men are more likely than men of other races to experience ED.

    We bald faster than we also get heart attacks earlier.
    If we follow the wrong crowd, we die earlier too from gun violence.
    If we’re in a racist country, some mad racist will shoot us down and we die on the spot.

    But we still survive and struggle!

    • kamtanblog  On 09/13/2019 at 1:32 am

      Simple Simon says
      Survival of the most “adaptable” “diverse” of
      the species. Nothing is impossible if we
      “Believe” !
      1 in ourselves
      2. System
      3. Not the political/scientific jackasses.

      My take

      Ps “dick heads” are also an endangered species…Darwin updated !

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