Males –Teaching Your Son About Sex.
By Yvonne Sam
Males act as very influential fixtures in the lives of their children. It is a well- known and widely-accepted fact that both boys and girls need a strong male to teach and show them how to navigate in our current world. Listen up guys, irregardless of whether or not you are still in an existing relationship with your child/ children’s mother, for the sake of all that is good and expected, do not let any ill feelings existing between the two of you hinder you from having a meaningful relationship with your son or daughter.
Young ladies need a man to show them how they should be treated, and young men need a man to show them how to treat women, provide for a family and above all be a man. So, let us have a discussion about an entity that every boy will experience at some point in his life – SEX.
You cannot circumvent this life event happening for your son. Regrettably, when it comes to learning about sex too many times boys are left to their own devices, or to those of their friends or to what they see on television. By no stretch of the human imagination is this the way things should be. Sex is a serious issue of which young people need guidance and advice in order to fully understand everything it entails. Being fully cognizant of the fact that it is a topic/ subject
most parents do not like to, or avoid talking to their children about, here are some suggestions on how fathers can have the sex conversation with their very interested, very vulnerable sons.
Ignoring and leaving the talk about Sex to the Next—Means you fail as a Male.
It can be quite easy to ignore the conversation altogether, but that is certainly not a good idea. Teenage boys are very impressionable and, strive to be regarded as men. Plainly put, it means that they will do stupid things based on what they think they know. For survival sake do not leave them to just flap in the wind. Have that conversation for your son’s sake.
If the idea of having a conversation with your son on such a topic makes you nervous be assured that it is not an easy but necessary task. It is important that you keep a clear head to avert turning the conversational effort into a disaster. If you need to, write things down and go from a list of points that you want to make. While this may appear silly it will prove ultimately helpful.
On a cautionary note, during the talk do not speak to your son like you would to boys who have experienced sex. Use language that communicates to your son the importance of being respectful. This is certainly not the time or the occasion to give him a rundown of your list of women, or to teach him how to be a skilful player. You are not required to be lovely dovey, but at the same time do not teach him that sex is a sport. Young boys will take that and twist it into something with disastrous results. Tell him everything. Do not omit the parts that are uncomfortable for you. Tell him what the penis looks like right before the act, and how to pleasure the sexual partner. Teach them about sexually transmitted diseases and without a doubt, reiterate the importance of protection. Leave nothing to chance. Talk to your son so that he is well informed. The sex talk is a real part of life.. The knowledge should be gained and retained before he looks for a wife.
Aleuta—The struggle continues.
Comments
Yvonne, you erred big time, girls also, more so, have to be taught about sex.
Yvonne is at it again. – “irregardless “? Bad choice of words. Makes you look bad. Very bad! Stop ✋ it!
Yvonne is at it again. – “irregardless “? Bad choice of words. Makes you look bad. Very bad! Stop ✋ it!
I don’t think this is a job for Fathers!
I am glad my Father never told me anything about sex …..
Yvonne this could be complex subject in America, Let me pose one issue to you. Most new Immigrants to the US do not have the time to integrate and get a fairly reasonable understanding of the American culture. Much of what we see we do not like. What advice do you give to your teenage children about dating and sex, if you do not understand or accept what seem to be the normal sexual behavior,
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Reply to emmanuel
Jun 5, 2017 – Kory Stamper, a lexicographer for Merriam-Webster and author of “Word by Word: The Secret Life of Dictionaries,” told us that “irregardless” is a word in the dictionary, and how to use it correctly. … “Irregardless” is a word and we’re duty-bound to enter ,
Irregardless is a word. It has an established form and meaning, it’s used in speech and occasionally in writing, and it’s even found in reputable dictionaries, including Merriam-Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary and The Oxford English Dictionary (though it is, quite appropriately, labeled nonstandard)
Nonetheless, it is a big-time poor choice of words. If ‘irregardless’ is a word, then, what’s regardless?
In the beginning, was Adam and Eve but sadly, we saw how Adam’s sexual desire impacted his judgment in the Garden of Eden. Thereafter, every other Man of Faith in the Bible struggled with being monogamous. So, why would anyone believe that with a history of sexual exploitation of women in our history, we can trust this generation of “fathers” who themselves have failed their wives to teach our sons and daughters any thing positive about SEX.
However, SEX is always a sticky subject in any discussion but the good news today is, people are much more open and willing to listen and even learn the very basic birds and bees discussion our parents were too ashamed or ignorant to teach us as children.
On the other hand, the good news Is we are in the 21 century and kids are having sex at a very early age, with the approval of their parents. But this also has to do with the teaching curriculum in schools today. These parents are making sure their kids are protected from unwanted pregnancies and diseases. Something Our culture didn’t provide as necessary tools to protect future generation.